4 Ways To Become A Good Listener

Jul 04/2021

Topic of Content

  1. 4 Ways To Become A Good Listener
  2. Practice active listening skills
  3. Ask relevant questions
  4. Wait Your Turn
  5. In conclusion

How often have you been talking to someone, and they are not listening? You might be frustrated or even angry. Sometimes we get so caught up in our thoughts that we stop paying attention to what others say. The good news is that there is a lot of research on becoming a good listener, so you can start improving your skills right now! It takes time and practice, but it's worth the effort. In this blog post, I will share four ways to help anyone become an attentive listener!

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4 Ways To Become A Good Listener

Get better at reading body language.

Sometimes people will say one thing, but their body shows something else. Like they might be saying "I'm sorry" with words and gestures that show just the opposite. Paying attention to these cues can help you better understand what someone is trying to tell you--and we all know how important it is to listen carefully! Imagine your friend is an introvert, and they accompanied you to a party. They might be feeling uncomfortable but might not say it. If you keenly look at their body language and how they politely reject everything, you can figure they're uncomfortable. So in that situation, you can take them somewhere calm and ask them what's going on. Surprisingly you might even find out something irrespective of their dislike towards partying.

Practice active listening skills

two people talking
Active listeners don't interrupt or change the subject without checking if this would be OK with the speaker. They maintain eye contact and try not to fidget too much while listening (it's so hard sometimes!). This type of communication builds trust between two people because it feels like an open conversation where both sides are heard equally.

In other words, active listening is all about being a better listener. It's the skill that makes every conversation better and more productive, which will help you find out what people think or feel about an issue. This way, you'll better understand their perspective - so they won't feel like nobody listens to them! So next time someone tells you something important, don't interrupt (unless it's urgent, of course). Be patient because now only are you going to get better at understanding them but also they might speak up more often if they know there's somebody who truly cares about hearing what they have to say.

Ask relevant questions

To better understand the person you're talking to, ask questions. But make sure you ask questions about what they spoke to you and not something random. If you ask something outside the box, they might think you never listened to them or that you're trying to change the topic. You can also ask for clarification at times or offer a different perspective, but don't give advice right away because that's not what people want anyway! Asking more questions will make them believe that you're interested in hearing them. This will lead to the conversation on a deeper level. Remember, you're listening to learn and not to be polite. It is very important to understand this rule. The more you hear to learn, the more you can ask questions. But if you want to be polite to them, then you'll listen only to what they try to start with. You'll never be able to hear beyond that, and it is crucial to understand that the person who is sharing wishes for you to listen more. So ask questions, learn and ask more questions.

asking related questions to the conversation  is a good listeners habit

Wait Your Turn

a girl listening to her friend

Be patient when listening and allow other speakers their full say before jumping in with an opinion (of course). You should repeat what you've heard back to the speaker. This will show them that you're listening and waiting for them to finish their entire story. You can proceed if the speaker agrees that what you heard was what they wanted to say. If not, the speaker would rephrase their point until the listener fully comprehends it. Once the speaker finishes and expects you to say something, start with some kind words that will assure them that you respect their choice of sharing with you. You can say things like "I respect your story", "you are very brave for sharing this", etc. Then you should proceed with any further questions or suggestions. Do not advise! Remember suggesting ideas for them to choose from is different than advising them to choose something. So based on what they shared, you can suggest ideas to them. If you don't have anything to suggest, you can ask them their next step. Sometimes, people will already have their solutions but will need reassurance.

In conclusion

If you want to get better at listening, a few things will help:

  1. Be aware of your thoughts and emotions while the other person speaks to you. This can be hard, but it will allow you to understand better what they are trying to say.
  2. Avoid distractions when someone else is talking by looking them in the eyes and focusing on their words instead of thinking about what needs to be done outside of this conversation or any tasks for getting off work.
  3. Ask questions without advising to allow the speaker an opportunity to think through different ideas themselves.

We hope our blog enables you to find tips to become a listener pro. When people know that someone has paid attention and cares about their point of view, they'll feel protected and safe. This helps many people to come out of various mental illnesses. 

Have a nice day!

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